Because Your Mom is Your Mom

My Relationship with My Mom

In the last couple years the relationship with my mom was especially strong. She had a handful of phone calls and facetimes with my wife and kids each week. I would call her 2–3 times a week on my drive home from work and talk about whatever was going on.

When My Mom Passed Away

Welcome to the worst club on Earth. The ‘Your mom has died’ club. It’s the worst club ever. It’s the worst because your mom is your mom. And when she’s gone it feels like a hole in your stomach, a hole in your chest, and another hole in you head. It hurts all over.

Picking Up Pieces

The week after the burial it was rough. I couldn’t focus at work, I’d have random emotional melt downs, and I had this battle of trying to tough it out vs. feeling the hurt. I’ve learned that feeling the hurt is the solution and toughing it out is an exhausting exercise with very little pay off.

A Couple Tips on What to Do When Someone’s Parent has Passed

It was hard returning to the office. People stared at me afraid to say something wrong. They ignored me in hopes to just power through the next couple of days to get back to joking around like old times. Don’t ignore people. Don’t treat them like they are diseased with sadness.

Keep the Emotional Boat Steady

There will be times, especially on Sundays, where I’ve broken down in front of the kids. They ask my wife why dad is sad and if it’s because ‘mimi’ died. We don’t brush it under the rug, I usually look them square in the face and tell them that is why I’m crying.

Because Your Mom is Your Mom

I’ll always remember all the great memories of my mom. She really worked hard for us six kids to have what we needed growing up. A month before she passed away I sat down with her and recorded a 45 min conversation of her telling stories and talking about her life. I’m about half way through editing it to share with my siblings, but every time I go to listen to it I lose it.

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Marketing and Business Consultant | Public Speaker | Influencer Marketing Strategist | Author | Beekeeper

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Adam Buchanan

Adam Buchanan

Marketing and Business Consultant | Public Speaker | Influencer Marketing Strategist | Author | Beekeeper